Friday was World Mental Health day. If nothing else, it offers us a moment to reflect on what makes you happy.
This weekend will offer some the opportunity to achieve what is often referred to as the Holy Grail of our games – a county title. Such an achievement will undoubtedly bring much happiness to many people, but it too shall pass. Just like the bad days.
Only the lucky few can emerge with silverware. But winning comes in many shapes and forms. Shane Carthy was a winner last week without stepping on a field. Currently on the road of recovery having been diagnosed with depression earlier this year, Shane’s articulate, brave, and moving interview on the Sean O’Rourke show reverberated around the airwaves and social media platforms.
Remember for a moment just how young this Dublin U21 star is and consider the strength it took to speak publically about an issue that unfortunately remains marred by the stigma of ignorance. Shane helped pull back the curtains and offered an insight into an issue one in four Irish people know all too well. I’ve no doubt his words helped many others out there who are struggling to realise that they are not alone, that it is ok not to be ok, and that there is not only help out there but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
It was great to hear Shane’s simple explanation of a complex issue: “You’ve a broken leg, you go to the hospital and you get that fixed; in my eyes, you’ve a broken mind and you go and get that fixed.” Simple as that. (Listen back to the show at goo.gl/GvO2TE.)
This is exactly the sporting parlance we’ve used in the GAA’s mental health packs ‘Play in my Boots’, developed in association with St. Patrick’s Mental Health Foundation. The packs refer to mental fitness and identify some of the training techniques we can all use to better attune our minds, similar to those we use to keep our bodies fit and healthy.
Yet even if we adhere to these protective factors there is no guarantee we won’t get an injury along the way – be it physical or mental, a torn hamstring or an anxiety attack, per say. If either arises there are certain rehabilitation steps we can take ourselves, but we may also need to reach out to a professional to guide us through our recovery.
In the battle against mental health problems one of the greatest tools we can arm our young people with is resilience. This vital life skill allows us to overcome and learn from setbacks while enabling us to view disappointment not as an end but as a scenic detour.
It’s important we reassess from time to time what winning and failure means. That we praise effort not success; celebrate participation, not just those who raise the cup. That we let our young players wallow in the fun that’s inherent in play. The secret is in the name – they’re called Gaelic Games, not Gaelic Work. Competition will come fast enough and those who want it will seek it out and thrive in that environment of excellence.
In a world that can seem increasingly determined to test our mental resolve (the artificial physical ideals pushed down our throats by the media and fashion industries, the strain of the economic downturn, the fractured nature of our hectic lives, the ubiquity of junk-food and alcohol, the misconceived perception of masculinity,
The New Economic Foundation have through evidence-based research identified ‘5 Ways to Wellbeing’. They are:
Connect – with the people around you. With family, friends, colleagues and neighbours. Think of these as the cornerstones of your life and invest time in developing them. Building these connections will support and enrich you every day.
Be active – Go for a walk or run. Step outside. Cycle. Garden. Exercising makes you feel good. Most importantly, discover a physical activity you enjoy and that suits your level of mobility and fitness.
Take notice – Be curious. Catch sight of the beautiful. Remark on the unusual. Savour the moment Be aware of the world around you and what you are feeling. Reflecting on your experiences will help you appreciate what matters to you.
Keep learning – Try something new. Rediscover an old interest. Sign up for that course. Set a challenge you will enjoy achieving. Learning new things will make you more confident as well as being fun.
Give – Do something nice for a friend or stranger. Smile. Volunteer your time. Join a community group. Look out, as well as in. Seeing yourself, and your happiness, linked to the wider community can be incredibly rewarding and creates connections with the people around you.
The great news is that each one is readily available for free through your GAA club. All you have to do is get involved. So go play a game of Rounders with your friends, be astounded by the skills our hurlers display, learn to speak Irish or join your local Scór group, feel the joy that coaching youngsters brings. And for goodness sake, everyone, hug a referee.
• If you are struggling and in need of someone to talk to please call the GAA’s mental health partners Samaritans for free on 116-123.