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Video: Do you or someone you love need to get out of an abusive relationship?

Do you tick on one of the toxic relationship boxes?

Leitrim Observer Reporter

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Leitrim Observer Reporter


During the early weeks of the Covid-19 restrictions in March and April people right across Ireland really began to focus on what HOME means for us. This situation of being “stuck at home” caused many of us to consider just how dreadful domestic abuse is. 

Covid-19 restrictions have shone a light on our homes, whether they are places of peace and safety, fun and busyness, creativity and chaos or indeed filled with tension and threat due to the presence of coercive control. Domestic violence and coercive control is a persistent and deliberate pattern of behaviour by an abuser over a prolonged period of time designed to achieve obedience and create fear. 

This behaviour may include coercion, threats, stalking, intimidation, isolation, degradation and control. It may also include physical violence or sexual violence. No one deserves this. Support is here. Domestic abuse and coercive control are all about making a woman’s world smaller – trapping her, restricting her independence and freedom. Its impact can often make a woman doubt herself and her judgement. It is not her imagination. It is not acceptable.

The service is a free, confidential support, information and advocacy service for women in controlling, abusive relationships. During this Covid-19 pandemic the service is phone-based and offers women time and space with a dedicated member of our experienced support team. 

If you are concerned about your relationship have a look at the list below, if you tick even ONE of the checklist, you could be in an abusive relationship.

Does Your Partner:

  • Humiliate you with verbal abuse and put downs?
  • Control what you do?
  • Stop you from talking to friends or family?
  • Make you account for money you spend?
  • Prevent you from getting a job?
  • Abuse you in front of your children?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, blame you or deny doing it?
  • Destroy your property or threaten your pets?
  • Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
  • Shove, slap or hit you or your children?
  • Insist you have sex when you don’t want to, or insist you do things you are not comfortable with?
  • Unfairly accuse you of being unfaithful?
  • Threaten to commit suicide or threaten to kill you if you leave?

 

DVAS provides information and guidance to people in our community who are concerned about a family member, a neighbour, a friend. If you want to support someone because you know or suspect they are experiencing domestic violence please contact us in confidence by ringing 071-9141515 from Monday-Friday 10am-5pm, emailing support@dvas.ie or sending an non-traceable message via our website www.domesticviolence.ie